Monday, April 2, 2012

happy birthday and all that other stuff!

This weekend was a whirlwind.  I have to admit that I don't like being busy.  I know the kids don't either.

My husband just left for work, he kissed me goodbye and sighed, "Thank goodness the weekend is over!"

Nothing's ever cut and dry.  I struggle with obligations and doing things out of guilt.  I'm struggling with one thing in particular.   It's funny how you see something coming for years that you're kids are involved with and don't do anything about it because you're "comfortable" essentially.  Even though you've talked about it with your kids before, they don't want to do anything about it either. And the deeper you get into the activity, the deeper and more complicated those feelings twist and get tangled inside of you and your kids.

I had a talk with my daughter last night, just the two of us cuddled on the bed and we got some good things out.  There were tears...happy tears of just finally coming to a resolution.  She was scared that she would be ridiculed.  I told her that hard as it may seem, we have to do what's right for ourselves.  We have to be respectful to others but ultimately, I'm trying to teach my girl that she's strong and no one has the right to take advantage of the love she has for herself.

Having a teenager is different.  If I thought that giving birth and raising small children would make me stretch and grow as a human being, all I had to do was wait to have a teenager.  There's so much more each day to learn about ourselves and so many teaching moments that are painful and healing at the same time. 

Now, on to some purely happy things.  Amelia worked so hard on a history project with a friend for National History Day.  This was completely on her own, this project.  She loved it, which is all I wish for with my kids that they are seeking out learning experiences on their own and loving them.  She and her friend won a special award for the best project on western history.

Also, another happy thing this weekend was that my baby turned 6!  This guy of mine is the bomb.  He makes my heart sing.  I hate to clump all the other stuff in with this birthday post but then again, life isn't so clean and neat.  If you saw us this weekend, it wasn't all about him unfortunately.  He did have a crazy, jumping around, candy filled sleep-over with a friend.  And then when the dust settled, we sat down as a family and had a fabulous dinner and sang happy birthday and ate cake!  Happy Birthday Eli!!! ♥


10 comments:

  1. happy, happy birthday to Eli! my oldest is six now and I am loving the age.

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    1. Thank you Kelly! Now that it's almost Saturday, I can start the birthday celebrations again for my other boy! Phew!

      Happy weekend to you!

      xo

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  2. Kyndale, your love for your children shines. Be strong and resolute in your decision because it is generated from a good place -- the need for respect and fairness.

    P.S.

    Happy birthday, Eli!

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    1. Thank you for listening to me the other day. I feel like a boob.

      Thank you for being my friend :)

      I'm going to call you back next week!

      Love, Kyndale

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  3. Oh my goodness, Happy Happy Birthday to Eli. I hope that is was a special day for all of you.

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    1. Thank you Heather, I think of you often. I got your book to review in the mail a day ago. I can't wait to put my thoughts about your lovely book into words. xo

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  4. Looks like a great weekend, but I know what you mean. Sometimes there is too much craziness and everyone, including the kids, heave a sigh of relief they go to bed Sunday night. Life IS messy, yes! Messy, but fun!

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    1. I love that my kids can tell me they need to slow down and I will listen. I just have to cross things off our to-do list and open up some free play time! Thanks for stopping by Sheila! xo

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  5. beautiful.

    your three kids are amazing to me. i can see each of them stretching and healing you. it is so so beautiful. i am with you on the over doing it thing, weekend blitz whatever. you are a little vague in what was going on , but i think i get it. i am about to say no to a sunday brunch for this same reason. weekend flurries are too crazy making. i need the weekend to heal me up from the flurry of the week. you are just the bomb yourself. you really really are.

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    1. I don't mean to be vague....I'll tell you about it later. We had a free week with school out and I thought we could just relax but we ended up filling it completely except for today. I finally was able to relax enough to get on with some cleansing of the house. Luckily nothing too big planned for the weekend. Not even egg dying but...it's also Solomon's birthday tomorrow! He'll be the big 1-0, double digit man.

      Heather, you are the bomb too. ♥

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